Isabel Foxen Duke is releasing a series of free videos discussing food and body image. The first one on why control is not the answer is out now. There will be a new video each week for three weeks and then she is launching a "Stop Fighting Food" coaching program. Whether you're interested in that or not, the videos are free and very much related to things we discuss here.
There were two parts in the video #1 on control that really jumped out at me. The first is that she defines "diet" as any way of eating that you're emotionally attached to. You don't have to be doing Paleo or IIFYM to be on a diet. You can be on a diet and not even know it if you feel very strongly about what you should and shouldn't eat. Bonus crazy points for judging yourself harshly when you don't eat according to your expectations.
The other part that really stood out is when she talks about how if you're feeling crazy around food and are struggling to control your eating, a new diet is never going to solve the problem. Yet that's what most of us have tried, jumping from diet to diet always thinking the next one is going to fix everything for sure. The next level there is to decide you're never going to diet again, but then you make non-dieting or happy eating your new diet and become emotionally attached to that. You create new rules ("eat exactly what you want" "eat only when hungry" "no snacking") and judge yourself based on how well you can execute those. If you eat something you don't really want when not really hungry, it feels exactly like you've blown your diet. So, you find yourself in the same mental predicament.